Pricing… it’s something that many entrepreneurs flip-flop on… Am I charging too little? Am I charging too much? If no one is signing up, maybe if I drop my prices, I’ll get some new clients….” We’ve all fallen into this trap.
Yesterday I met with one of my friends who is a professional speaker to help me with my psychic entertainment and speaking fees and he asked me, “Why do you think some organizations pay someone $500/hour to speak while they pay others $17,000 for a 90-minute presentation?” “It’s because that’s what they ask for.” Many of us categorize ourselves as “beginners” but we’re really not. We’ve been doing these same skills and talents our whole lives, it’s just that we now charge for them.
That being said, I’ve not only raising my speaking fees but I’m going to be raising my coaching fees for 2023 too. I currently offer VIP coaching days where you can plan out a whole coaching program for your business all in one day and receive accountability and mindset support from me as you implement your program too. If this is something you’ve been wanting to do, you can set up a complimentary call with me here to learn more about it. My pricing for my reiki healing treatments and intuitive readings will be going up in 2023 as well so here’s where you can go to lock in the current pricing. Thanks and I hope you have a great holiday season!
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About Julie Goetzinger:
Julie Goetzinger is a psychic medium, best-selling author and coach who teaches how to make more money and impact without sacrificing your well-being. In her book, “Free to Fly: Manifest the Life of Your Dreams,” she shares her story of how she created abundance by stepping into her true self as an artist and spiritual medium. She is the creator of Free to Fly and has seven years of experience in business as an entrepreneur.
One of the most common things that I hear from flow creative clients is that they are bored, and that it feels like they just do the same thing. Photoshoot after photoshoot, and they’re like, money’s coming in. Getting clients is not a problem, but I feel uninspired, and I totally relate to that feeling, like you’re going through the emotions, you’re doing it and you feel like you should be grateful; like you should be happy with what you have. You’ve worked so hard to build this beautiful business. You have clients coming in, and it’s like, Why am I not happy? Why does feeling grateful feel like hard work? Why is it hard to sit down and just appreciate everything that’s come my way? And the reason is because you’re feeling uninspired.
You’re feeling that lack of motivation because as creatives, we crave a variety. We crave for new projects. No, we just wanna do things differently. Like to try things to spice it up, add in a different set for your bir shoots, or can you go to a new location for your photoshoots outside? Of course you can. What I found is that for me, that is not enough. I like to have my hand in multiple projects, and it’s something that I’ve jokingly said as a Gemini, that I can’t just do one thing. I’m the sign of the twins, and Geminis are very creative, free spirits people. We like to do a lot of different things.
Often in the business world, we’re told to pick a lane and the rich are in the niche. Is that true? Absolutely. Are you having fun? Because it’s not just about the money coming in, because if you are making the money, the business is moving smoothly and you’re not fulfilled, what good is that?
Like we’re here to have fun. We’re here to enjoy our lives. So something that I’ve given myself permission to do is to have more than one project, and it feels like different businesses, but it’s all under the same business, Julie Goetzinger, LLC. But I definitely have different lanes and I wanna share with you my process that has helped me to revamp my motivation and my business with hopes that maybe some of these ideas would help you as well.
I actually teach a workshop to photographers called Multiple Streams of Revenue for Photographers. If that interests you, you’ll find a link within my website to join in. Basically, it’s all about multiple streams, like different ways that the money can come in and also different ways to feel more inspired. What I did was I created a chart for myself since I’m a former elementary school teacher so I love making things like whiteboards. It’s fun to check them. So what I did was I made a little whiteboard, and basically it has this month’s goal, for example now is October, 2022 and this will most likely be published in November or December, just change the specific month that you’re in. I’ve broken down my business into three categories: I have speaking, I have photography, and I have coaching. So my goal is to book two photoshoots every month, and I have my photo shoots at the top. For me, it doesn’t matter if I actually do the photoshoot in that month, but my goal is to book at least two photoshoots for a month.
And then my next goal is to book at least two VIP coaching days. This is when I sit down with my photographers and I teach them how to build their own programs for monthly reoccurring income, how to host retreats, and how to add online passive income to their business. So my goal is to book two of those per month.
Then I also have my retreats, I do retreats per year, two abundance breakthrough retreats. I clearly Like number two, Gemini twins, Just an interesting thing that I notice. So my goal is to book at least two spots every month for my retreats and then I have one entertainment event. Since I am a psychic medium as well, I like to do in-person events. I like to do corporate events. I like to do weddings and speaking engagements. My goal is to book at least one of those per month. So I just created little circles with different categories and I get to check them off as I complete them.
The Best Marketing Activities
I also have a section in my chartfor my marketing activities, because how am I going to reach these goals? Well, through marketing. I talk a lot more about marketing at my Abundance Breakthrough retreat to trailor the marketing towards you and what feels fun and good for you to do.
I just had someone ask me yesterday at a PPA event that is a photographer’s association group. She sad, “I’m not new to photography,” she actually worked for someone else and was in journalism. She’s a very skilled practice photographer, and she said, “I need to learn all the marketing pieces to attract portrait clients as for my business that I just started.” She is under the impression that she needs to learn all things and learn them all right now, of course. She is like, “I don’t understand keywords. I don’t know how to make reels. I don’t know how to do Youtube.” And my guidance to her was one step at a time and to really tune in to what feels best to you. What’s your favorite way to show up? For me personally, it is video. I love speaking.
It feels good. It feels natural. It feels authentic and comfortable for me. So what I do is I shoot my videos, I shoot for my podcast and my Youtube channel, and then I repurpose that content and put it all over social media. My VA does it and then transcribes it and puts it onto the blog and adds it to my email marketing campaigns. And to me that is so efficient because I get to show up the way I really want to show up that feels best for me, which is speaking and through video. That is my primary marketing activity. And then all the other things they did, it did get done. It gets spread out into the world through social media, through email, and it’s not me splitting my energy and physically doing all those things.
We repurpose content. That’s something we go into deeper at my Abundance Breakthrough Retreat, how to really tune in to what is your special sauce, what is going to help people to really understand what it is that you do and how you can help them as well. So for me my marketing materials or my marketing activities are to send a weekly email. I send email newsletters. I like to make it fun by doing a weekly message from Spirit, and then I’ll add something about a workshop or a retreat that’s coming up. But I always want to entertain, I want to inspire, and I want to educate. So it’s not just me promoting things all the time. There are plenty of people out there that they only reach out to you when they want something from you.
One of my coaches calls it a booty call. Through email, if you don’t hear from someone for months on end and then suddenly they have an event coming up and you hear them nonstop like that week, that’s a booty call, because they want you to sign up for their event. Whereas if you make it more consistent and you add value to their lives in some way, you make it fun for them, you inspire them, you educate them, then they’re gonna be much more likely to want to come to your event because they know who the hell you are.
Next thing is Youtube. I like to do a weekly Youtube and it might sound like a lot for you, but I have a lot of energy. I’m a very high energy person. I’m again a Gemini, I’m a communicator. I like to make videos, I like to write, and I like to speak. So, if this sounds like a lot to you, you just pick and choose what feels good to you. I do a weekly Youtube video, although it is recommended to do a video every single day if you’re using Youtube as your strategy. Well, that is not my primary strategy, it’s just one of my strategies, so I do it once a week, sometimes twice a week, because that feels good. I also have a podcast, and I publish two podcasts every month and I have a virtual workshop, my multiple stream of revenue for photographers. Then I also am starting to do spiritual workshops in person at yoga studios in where I live. I track how many networking events I attend. Networking is a really powerful way to grow your business and also to make new friends, to make new connections. People work with tho they like and trust, and if they don’t know you and they’ve never met you in person or they’ve never seen your face, they’re not gonna be very likely to recommend you.
I’ve been asking the universe for more word of mouth referrals. I love working with someone, like from one night, in-person sales meeting with one of my high school seniors and her family, I said, “I wanna clone you all and I’d like to work with more people just like you.” Like they’re very easy going, fun, appreciative, and happy. The girl was gorgeous, it’s not that it’s a priority, but it did make it easier in editing. I didn’t have to retouch any skin I was like, “you are what I would like more of. Please, send me people who are just like you.” And she did, they sent their best friends, and then they sent me a boy next.
You know that word of mouth referral is really powerful. So really the best marketing you can do is do a really good job for your clients. Show up fully for your clients. Be completely present with them, not having your mind elsewhere. What do I need to do next? Where else do I need to go?
But full presence is your greatest gift. And last night, I sold one of my photography collections. We sat and talked and I have no agenda. I am blessed that my ex-husband has my children half of the time, and so I feel zero guilt about working as late as I want to, and I can be fully present with people and I don’t book anything afterwards so that I can be fully present with them. And they feel that, and desire that too. People desire connections, and not having an agenda for somewhere you need to run off to after. Such a gift to people, especially for moms. Like this one time with a mom, she was just like talking and talking and was so happy. I was like, this is fun. I can’t believe I get paid for this. She’s like, “Oh you need to, you know, head out,” and I’m like, I’m good, I’m happy. I’m enjoying our conversation. It just feels good to connect with people and not have somewhere else to rush off to afterwards. A full presence is your greatest gift you can give to anyone.
Something else I do to keep track of making sure I don’t drop any balls throughout, and since I do have three businesses: the coaching, the speaking and the photography, they all of course branch into different areas as well. I like to have checklists. A whiteboard, specific for my photography clients, a workflow to make sure I don’t drop the balls. I go down from the very first phone call, all the way to delivering their final products, and I make sure I don’t miss those steps. I have templates for everything, and it just helps to keep me track, keep me organized. And I feel better than ever. When I was a coach, I was fully committed to my, especially my free of life program because it’s a yearlong mastermind program. I poured all of my energy into that program and what I found was that I did not put enough energy into the front end of that. So that would be attracting people to come into that program next. I had 15 clients in that program for a year. I served them so fully that I was not paying attention to the front end the way I know I need to now, which was another reason why I set up multiple streams of income because I also have a book.
I did that because I learned that you can’t just put, for me anyway, put all your energy into one thing because what if one thing happens that shifts that thing that you can no longer do? We all saw that during the Covid lockdown. Our photographers, we could not do the photography. People started doing those front stoop pictures for free just to give back to the community, but many of them had to or go to apply for unemployment and PPA loans and all those beautiful things. You never know when things are going to shift and change in our world, that there could be a stream that gets cut off completely.
I know a photographer who went blind. She had a stroke and went blind in one eye. She could no longer do photography. So you never know what’s going to happen. It’s always good to have multiple streams of income, which is what I’m all about, whatI’ve done for my own business, and what I’m now teaching other photographers to do as well.
You can book a complimentary call with me just to talk about this. To see if this is something that you’d like to do for you business, and if you’d like help implementing that, I can certainly help to do that with you.
In this episode, Julie shares how being willing to fail can lead to your greatest triumphs in life. When we spend so much of our lives trying to avoid failure we are limiting our highest growth potential because in the depths of failure is when the greatest lessons are learned and our true strengthening happens. Getting curious about our desire to “win” and learning to let that go will allow us to experience the true joy and bliss that can happen when we try new things and don’t let the fear of failure stand in our way.
In This Episode, You Will Learn About:
How failing can be the greatest thing that happens for your growth
How to let go of the fear of failure
Having courage to put yourself out there in a new way is what will lead to your greatest triumphs in life
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About Julie Goetzinger:
Julie Goetzinger is a psychic medium, best-selling author and coach who teaches how to make more money and impact without sacrificing your well-being. In her book, “Free to Fly: Manifest the Life of Your Dreams,” she shares her story of how she created abundance by stepping into her true self as an artist and spiritual medium. She is the creator of Free to Fly and has seven years of experience in business as an entrepreneur.
Recently, I went and performed a story at The Moth. The Moth is for storytellers, many of which are professional speakers, actors, actresses coming to perfect their craft. And I decided, being trained as a professional speaker, this would be something that’s great for me, to get in front of an audience and to practice a story. I signed up to put my name in to be pooled. And what happens is you’re to prepare a five minute talk on a specific theme.
The theme that night was crossroads. So we were asked to prepare a five minute talk, and you don’t know if you’re gonna get chosen when you get there. You put your name in the bag and that just means that you’re open to being chosen. I came in cocky as hell and I left deeply humbled.
Here’s what happened: I walked in and I’m like, “I got this. I’m a speaker. I’ve got a speaking coach. I’ve got a rating coach. I can do this. I’m not afraid.” I introduced myself to the staff. I sat near the VIPs. I saw their seats marked VIP, and I decided I would make friends with the VIPs because I, too, am a VIP, and I deserve to be here in this section. Again, feeling cocky, feeling confident. And cocky to me just means overconfident.
It was just how I was at the beginning of that night, and I made friends with this woman who actually had won the event the previous time. So we exchanged phone numbers because I figured it’d be good to know her. And she also just thought it was fun to connect with me. So we exchanged phone numbers. She is the first person to get picked to share, and she does an incredible job, and I’m so proud of my new friend. She gets good scores and that was something else. I didn’t realize that we were even being scored. I thought that we were just going up there, kind of like karaoke, and just share our story from our hearts. You know, kind of like improv.
Well, no, there’s a specific criteria that you’re to follow. It’s supposed to be timed and you are judged and you get scores. I was like, “Oh, okay, well, if I’m meant to get picked, I get picked. If I’m not, I won’t. No big deal, right?” My name is called next. I’m like, “Oh shit. Too late to turn back.” Now, I walk out on stage loosely having a story that I wanted to share about divorce and had no idea how long the story was gonna be.
I was proud of my story because my message was about divorce as completion. It was about not to fear it, not to think you’re bad or wrong, or to shame yourself for going through divorce or for considering divorce, but to see it as completion and to continue to send that person love and appreciation after the separation.
So I finished my story. I just stopped. There was no real ending. I just stopped talking. I had no idea how long I’d been talking. The audience applauds me. I go and sit down and my scores pop up. They’re low. They’re pretty low, and I’m thinking, “Well, I didn’t know what I was doing. It’s fine. At least I got up there and shared my story. It’s okay.” The next person gets up there, her scores are much higher than mine. The next person gets up there, their scores are also higher than mine, to the point where my name just kept dropping lower and lower in that scoreboard. I’m sitting there feeling like I’m gonna explode with tears, fighting them back. Just feeling all the feelings that I have no right to be here. Who am I to be a speaker? I need to pick something else. I can never do this professionally. Who would pay me for this when I just got that score? I don’t deserve to be here. The lights finally came on during intermission and I did not say goodbye to any of my new friends. I beline it the hell out of there. I fast walk to the metro, get to the metro. Two people ask me for money, and I’m thinking, “Well now I’m gonna get robbed after just being kicked down, being told I wasn’t good enough, basically by a huge audience of people that I’ve never even met.” Finally I get home and I cry myself to sleep.
Realizations after the Failure
I wake up the next morning wanting to blame someone for these feelings. These feelings of inferiority, these feelings of failure. And I’m thinking, they shouldn’t have judged you. They shouldn’t have given scores. That was humiliating. I will never step foot in the Miracle Theater again. And then I got curious and I started thinking, what part of me has such a strong desire to win? Why?
I thought back in my life to other times when I had won and lost and what happened, and what I recalled was if I would score the winning goal in soccer or if I would get chosen for a part in the play in my school auditions, then, I would receive a lot of love from my father. And my dad was a performer as well, and I was thinking, this is his arena. I can’t let dad down. My dad has now departed. I was thinking, “Wow, I really let dad down.” And I think subconsciously that was actually what I was responding to. Not my scores, but what it meant and how it made me feel. I realized that winning was actually me putting myself out there saying yes to allowing myself to be someone who shared a story in hopes of inspiring and uplifting others.
Maybe someone in the audience was going through a divorce right then, or was about to, and was fearful and needed to hear my message not to be afraid. That was why I shared that, not to get good scores. And then I started thinking, how is this any different than getting crappy scores in mini golf? Why does this matter so much?
And I realized that it was the being stuck in this idea of what success looks like. Success looks like lots of money. Success looks like high scores. Success looks like praise from others. So, as long as we need that feeling and that validation from others, we will never feel success within. The success here is in putting ourselves out there of being bold and being brave. Having the desire to inspire and to help and to teach others, that is success.
And that is my story of how I was humbled, yet was also able to pick myself back up and grow through this perceived failure and to not see it as a failure at all. I also realized that the name of the theater was The Miracle Theater, and I laughed about that because of the breakthrough that I experienced in the Miracle Theater.
This is the exact story that I plan to share at the next month’s event. I’m not shying away. I’m not hiding. I’m not staying home feeling sorry for myself. I’m gonna put myself out there again only one month after having that happen. That is success. That is winning.
In this episode, Julie shares how our worth is not determined by how much money is in our bank account, how many people want to work with us/date us/ what our body looks like, etc. Our worth comes from our existence as the divine beings that we are. It’s not what we do, it’s WHO we are. So long as we define worth and success as something outside of ourselves that we can achieve, we will endlessly be searching for it.
In This Episode, You Will Learn About:
How to redefine worth and success
How to feel successful before the money comes/before the partner arrives
“Julie is so inspiring!” <– If that sounds like you, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps me support more women — just like you — accelerate their careers. Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap to rate with five stars, and select “Write a Review.” Then be sure to let me know what you loved most about the episode!
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About Julie Goetzinger:
Julie Goetzinger is a psychic medium, best-selling author and coach who teaches how to make more money and impact without sacrificing your well-being. In her book, “Free to Fly: Manifest the Life of Your Dreams,” she shares her story of how she created abundance by stepping into her true self as an artist and spiritual medium. She is the creator of Free to Fly and has seven years of experience in business as an entrepreneur.
This year has been a huge lesson to me in identity and defining myself by success, defining myself by how much money was in my account, and how many people wanted to work with me. And as people completed their contracts and moved forward, it felt like a not good job for me for helping them get where they needed to be. I took it as they don’t want to be with me anymore. I have no value to them anymore. That was the story I told myself, and it felt like heartbreak. It felt painful. And as the client started to move on and had some unforeseen things happen financially this year, my worthiness went down dramatically.
I started to think they don’t wanna be with me. I have nothing to offer. I’m done. I scheduled some connection calls with past clients who told me what’s happened since working with me, things I didn’t even know. One of them fell in love with her partner and now has two children with her.
And I was like, “How long has it been since we talked? You were single the last time we worked together.” And then another client was telling me about this huge surge in income that she’s had in her business and the money blocks that I help her to overcome. And then others, it was just so good to hear their voice and reconnect with them, and they reminded me of what I’ve already done.
The lessons taught are invaluable to them, but for me, it just felt like loss. It felt like I was not good enough, and I started moving money around. I started getting resourceful and really reorganizing everything, scrutinizing every little payment that I was making. To be very mindful is something that serves my business. Is this working? And if it wasn’t, I let it go. So it gave me the opportunity to go through everything with a fine comb and to let go of things that weren’t joyful or that weren’t bringing a return to my business. So that was a great gift, but a shift happened for me.
The other night at three o’clock in the morning, which is my hour when the spirit wakes me up. I heard very clearly, “You’ve been inauthentic, Julie. You’ve been inauthentic.” And I was like, “How? Like how am I being inauthentic?” And what I received was, “You need to claim who you are as a psychic medium and not shy away from it for fear of judgment. How others gonna receive you? How can you package yourself so that you’re accepted by more people, so that you can make more money, so that you can feel more loved, more accepted?”
And I was told very specifically, “You need to change this title. You need to own this. This is who you are. This is not a profession. This is your calling. This is your mission. You need to do this.” And I had started to shift to serve who I thought needed to be served in order to make money, in order to sustain myself and my family.
I was like, “Well, I need to teach business strategy. I need to do this. This is what people want.” And what happened was there was a disconnect and they were saying, “I don’t have time for another program. I don’t have time. I don’t have money for another education program right now.” And in my mind I was like, this isn’t an educational program. I miss psychic medium. I can connect to your loved ones. I can connect to your guides and your angels and help you step into your highest growth potential. This is not education, this is the mission and not just my mission, but their mission too. And I think that’s why. It was painful to hear people say, “I’m just not ready yet.”
Embracing the Authentic Self
I’m just not ready yet. But I’ve been saying that to myself. I’m not ready yet. I’m not ready to step into the full version of who I am. And at 3:00 AM, I changed my title to Psychic Medium, and I put it all over social media. I put it on my website and I’m like, “I’m just gonna accept that this is it. This is it.”
And I looked back in my life at the times that I did accept that and wrote about it in my book, claimed that as my own, and just shared it with the world, my abundance was there. And right after I reclaimed this title—this has been who I am in multiple lifetimes—I got the yes I’d been waiting for. Not just this yes on my house. It feels like a complete new lease on life, and I had started to feel the urgency around moving and it’s time to move. I keep hearing that it’s time to declutter, it’s time to shift. And I was like, “I don’t have that much stuff. I’m in an apartment. I’ll do that when I move.” I started to look around for some places to move and I was thinking, “I’m done with being in an apartment. I’m done having lots of neighbors.”
I’m an empath. I feel every little thing. And being in an apartment has been very challenging for me for multiple reasons, but this is just not the way I want to live. This is not conducive to my lifestyle. And I started looking for other options. I saw this house, it was like a little cottage, and it’s by a lake. And I drove up with my daughter and she said, “Mommy, can we afford this? This is its own house.” And I said, “Well, actually, it’s less expensive than where we are now because I’m in a high-cost living area.” And she was like, “Wow, mom. It’s so beautiful.” And we hadn’t had a tour schedule yet, but I had my daughter’s approval, which is really important to me because she’s very in tune as well.
And we drove away and I was like, “I gotta move on this.” So, I set up a tour the next day with the owner. I walked in, and there’s a sage in the middle of his table and there’s crystals everywhere. And I was like, “What is this?” This is like a stage for me. Like I don’t meet many people who have all of this where I live and the east coast near Washington, DC. There’s not a lot of us that I’ve met personally that live here. And this man has this over his house and I’m talking to him, seeing all the things that we have in common, and I’m just like, “This is my house.” I started taking pictures of every room, like planning out where I’m gonna put everything. Meanwhile, I didn’t even fill out an application yet, but I knew it was my house.
And I drove away and all the fears, “What if he doesn’t pick me? What if my finances aren’t strong enough? What if he wants someone with two people’s income?” All the fears, all the doubt, the self-doubt, the worthiness that I’ve been struggling with all year, not feeling good enough, it came out to the forefront. The night that I decided to reclaim who I am and not to be fearful of the judgment that I may receive for saying or claiming or sharing that I am a psychic medium. The next morning I got the yes for the house. The excitement that I felt, knowing that this is where I’m going to step into that next highest version of myself as an entertainer, as a performer, and as someone who is ready to be seen and received by the masses.
And feeling so called to performance, feeling called to big audiences, big crowds, I know that it’s going to happen when I’m in that house. And all of this happened after I said yes, and after I did some looking into the worthiness piece. When things are stripped away from us, we associate that with our worth, our money, our appearance, and who we’re in partner with. The other day I was thinking I’m not where I wanna be financially. I don’t have a partner right now. I don’t know where I’m gonna live. I don’t know what’s happening with my business. There were so many unknowns that I was just like in the depths of hell, in the depths of it, dark night of the soul. Like, I’m done. Done with all of this, and I don’t deserve this because I’ve worked so hard to get where I am.
And meanwhile, the outside world is telling me, “You’re amazing. You’re so inspiring. You’ve changed my life. We’re so appreciative of you.” I can hear that all day long, but until I know it and I feel it within, it means nothing.
Not needing the external world to validate us, but seeing it from within, trusting our intuition, going where it says to go, and visualizing the future. Already realized I saw myself in that house. I see myself in that house. I see myself on stage. I’ve had dream over, dream over, dream over dream of huge stadiums audiences filled, coming to hear me speak. And the lesson for me has been this: we’re not worthy by what we do, how we look, who’s with us, who thinks we’re good enough. We’re worthy because we exist because we’re here.We’re all worthy exactly as we are. Not after we’ve gotten more education, after we have more money after our body looked a certain way after someone tells us they love, but for exactly who we are in this moment. You are worthy.
So it’s time to start celebrating that future that’s not even realized yet. Start celebrating it now. Feel it now. See yourself there. Now doing it, being with who you wanna be with, where you wanna be. Feel it. You are worthy of all of it. And it can happen like that. And some of us choose to have our manifestation spread out. Some of us choose to get them in this like windfall. That’s what I like. Just give it all just a huge windfall, thank you. But however you are open to receiving it, knowing that it is coming, you put your order and you’ve requested it is coming. You are worthy of it.
What’s mine will never pass me by. What’s mine will never pass me by. My requests have been heard. My request have been honored. And in the perfect time and in the perfect way, they will be realized.
In this episode, I interview boudoir portrait photographer turned intimacy educator, Angela Michelle who lost her eyesight after suffering from a stroke. She shares, “For a photographer to lose vision is heartbreaking and I managed to take that experience and find even greater purpose in my mission.
In This Episode, You Will Learn About:
How photography can be expressed as a ritual
How to hold sacred space for your clients to fully express themselves during a boudoir shoot and to feel all of their feelings
How to overcome challenges and evolve while still fulfilling your mission
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Julie Goetzinger is a psychic medium, best-selling author and coach who teaches how to make more money and impact without sacrificing your well-being. In her book, “Free to Fly: Manifest the Life of Your Dreams,” she shares her story of how she created abundance by stepping into her true self as an artist and spiritual medium. She is the creator of Free to Fly and has seven years of experience in business as an entrepreneur.
Moving on and Adapting from a Heartbreaking Trial in Life
Angela is a stroke survivor who is completely blind in one eye and has learned to adapt as a photographer and educator. I would love to start with how you have adapted? I can imagine that that was really heartbreaking and scary as anything and yeah. How did you, move forward from that?
So I think losing vision for anyone is devastating, but I think for a photographer, it’s probably one of our biggest fears. We kind of talked about how I had an intuition before. I always had this fear of going blind, of losing vision, and I’ve had it very strongly ever since I was a child, and everyone always told me like, “Oh, yeah, you’re a photographer. Use your eyes.” But when it happened, I think because I intuitively knew it was going to happen—I can’t even explain that—I think I handled it pretty well. I think some people might have been more devastated, but because I had this feeling when it happened, I was just like, “Okay, this is how it happens.”
And how do I move forward? I promised myself, as long as I could still see, I would still be a photographer and I would still find ways to photograph because it is something that I am just so passionate about. And it’s been a part of my life for as long as I can remember. So yeah, I do still photograph, although not as often. And that’s because of the stroke; it wasn’t just the vision loss. It also caused a whole other list of health issues that have kept me in and out of the hospital for the past, six years now. No doubt you’ve faced that question. Why did this happen? Why me? Have you gotten any answers about that?
It turns out I have a rare clotting disorder called Antiphospholipid syndrome. I was not aware I had it until the stroke happened and I was pregnant with my first child. Would’ve been my first child. And they think, in my case, the pregnancy hormones, kind of pushed this disease into overdrive. And I ended up with what is known as catastrophic anti-phospholipid. And that just means your body is throwing clots everywhere. That’s what caused the stroke. That’s also what caused all the pulmonary embolisms, which would lead to lung disease. For those who can see, you can kind of see the scar on my chest. That’s an open heart surgery that they did actually on my lungs in 2018.
Yes, we got answers. It’s always nice when you know the reason why, and if I’m being honest, I have been struggling for about a decade, leading up to that incident, with my health and I was struggling to get doctors to listen and look deeper if there was an issue. So when it happened, it was devastating, but it was also kind of, “Okay, there’s a reason why this is happening.” And now that I know, I can do things to make my life better.
So that’s the scientific reason, but what about the spiritual? The bigger “why.” Have you been able to uncover that? It’s so interesting that you ask that because we hear people all the time say things happen for a reason. And I don’t wanna go down the toxic positivity road by any means, but I do feel like this was my path a way. And I do feel like what happened to me had to happen for me to become the person that I am now. And I’ll be honest. I really like the person I am now. In that way, I tell people I’m actually grateful for the experience because it did ignite a transformation in me that I think was so needed in my life. And I think it put me even more on the path of doing what I’m here to do.
The Bigger Meaning in Life
And what are you here to do now? I’m here to do what I’ve always done. I just feel more purpose in it and that’s to help transform people. It’s to help people live their best life and not wait, not hold back, because life is happening right now in this present moment. And I really want people to embrace that.
Your story is such an in inspiration and I thank you for your honesty and being so forthcoming. Your vulnerability is really beautiful and inspiring. And like you said, it’s given you bigger meaning in your life—what you’ve gone through.
Photography as a Ritual
So I thank you for sharing that part of your story. I’d like to hear a little bit more about your photography. You see your photography as more of a ritual, and I’d love for you to explain what do you mean by that photography as a ritual? My degree is in cultural anthropology and I studied sex and rituals in depth.
I already had this idea of like what a ritual is. And at the time I had started my photography business in 2008. I was still in school, and I began to see these transformations that people would have in a photography session. And I was like, “Something’s happening here.” And when I started thinking of the purpose of a ritual, it is to transform. It is a liminal state of possibility.
So when you’re in the ritual, you’re not what you were, and you’re not what you’re going to be just yet.It’s just this infinite possibility of what you can be. And so when I started to see photography like that, the first thing I did is I thought of all the times we tend to hire professional photographer: newborn, maternity, weddings, engagement sessions. I’m Hispanic. So, all these kind of milestone moments. And I was like, “Wow. I think part of our purpose as photographers is to help people transform how they see themselves.” I think photography is such a powerful medium for that because it is embodied work. It’s a work that we do with our body, and we’re in this moment, but we’ve come out of it. And we see ourselves the way that we want to be seen, maybe the way that we always want to be seen, maybe the way that we feel in our heart. That just transforms us and helps us step into that role even more, whether that role is being sexy, beautiful, empowered woman who’s owning her body, or whether it’s helping to someone—you know a senior portrait session, it’s a huge transformation. Like you’re taking a young woman and helping to see herself as this independent adult. And so there’s that transformation there. So I just think there’s so much possibilities for it to be a ritual.
Photography as a Safe Space
And when you think of it that way, you can think of all the steps of how to make the ritual even more intense. I guess just more fulfilling for that particular client. And how do you hold that space for the clients to have that transformation? Because I would bet that not every photographer notices and is like, “Oh, look, you look so beautiful. You look different.” And that’s just a small percentage of the transformation. How do you hold this space for a woman to transform emotionally and to see herself differently?I think holding space is an art in itself. It really is. And I’ve recently shifted the way that I talk about it. For so long, I used to say safe space, and I think that is a goal as someone who’s trained as a sexologist. You know, there is no such thing as safe sex, only safer sex. And so I kind of take that same idea. I can’t promise you safe space, cuz I don’t know what each person’s triggers are or where they may run into trouble. So I can’t promise you that safe space. I can promise you a supportive space and in that supportive space, I hold that space for you to feel whatever you need to feel. And so I tell people if you have a visceral reaction, whether it’s crying or screaming or whatever, you were allowed to have that. I’m not gonna hold you back from that. I’m not here to control the way you feel. I’m here to give you that space and support you to feel what you need to feel. Whether that person is struggling with their body image, or maybe struggling with something deeper.
You know, in boudoir work, we work a lot with people who are working through their sexuality. And so sometimes it’s them stepping into those emotions that they feel around that maybe are from a past experience, or maybe just kind of wanting to show up as their authentic self.
And this is really why I believe boudoir photographers are healers because this isn’t just any old photo shoot. Like this is really allow, like you said, the sexual wounds that we might be carrying—the body image, the internal thoughts, like there’s so much that goes into it and holding that. The word that pops into my head is sacred space—holding sacred space and that space for you to feel what you’re gonna feel. And like you said, I can’t guarantee safe space and everyone defines safety differently. I believe that we’re all inherently safe and it’s all just a perception that we’re not. But we are going to be triggered and that’s part of growth is part of transformation and holding the space for someone to be safe, even in the triggering.
Helping People Realize They’re Worthy of Love and Pleasure
So that sounds like it’s exactly what you’re doing. I love it. I love the work that you’re doing. You shared with me that your mission is to help people realize that they’re worthy of love and pleasure, and they deserve to live the life that they want. Can you tell me a little bit more about this and how you help them to do this?
I think, through photography, we do this through that transformation and I’m not talking about the physical transformation. I’m talking about the internal transformation that a client experiences and that we all see. That’s a big mission to see that they’re worthy of love and pleasure. I think, for me, the power of the session itself is that a client was scared to do something and they did it anyway. And there’s so much emotion and like power and resilience and bravery that can come out of that experience because they were vulnerable and they put themselves in a vulnerable situation. But they moved through it because I think we grow through discomfort. And so I think that that alone allows them to maybe realize, like, “What else can I do in my life that I had been putting off because I didn’t feel worthy? Because I was worthy to do this photo shoot and look at these photos and look at how I feel.”
So my hope is that it’s part of that journey of them to kind of feel like they are worth it. So now that I don’t do as much photography, I say I still do what I always did. I just don’t always have my camera as the tool. Cause to me, the camera was just a tool to do the work. So now I do it a lot through embodied work through yoga, through breath work, through journaling, through different exercises that I give clients. They work through intimacy obstacles. And to be clear when I talk about intimacy, you know, a lot of times, we think of intimacy, like with a partner, like maybe with our sexual partner. But there’s intimacy in all our relationships.And most importantly, there’s intimacy within ourself—our self intimacy. And I tell people you can’t connect to other people until you’ve learned to connect to yourself and your own body.
And so a lot of the work I do is those exercises to help them and to kind of just shift their mindset: Why do you think you’re not worthy? Where did that come from? Let’s use compassionate curiosity to break it down, and then we can get back to that place of worthy needs.
So much when you were sharing came up for me. You know, being single now, and everybody said before, you need to be alone for a while. You need to, and I didn’t understand that. I was like, “No, I like being in a partnership. I like being with a man.” And then I realized that the real healing happened alone. And I was also the most fulfilled sitting under a mountain in Colorado, all by myself. And I was like, “Oh, this is what I’ve been avoiding. And this is the most powerful feeling of bliss I’ve ever felt in my life.” And I’m sitting here in nature, and it was like, “Wow.” And I also loved what you said about being intimate with yourself and really going within and looking at everything. That’s there blessing, loving every little bit of it. None of it’s bad or wrong and just honoring all of that. And when we do that work first and then you attract friends, clients lovers from that space—that’s powerful.
The Path to Becoming an Intimacy Educator
I would love to hear if other photographers are interested in becoming an intimacy educator. How do they do that? How do you start on that path to become an intimacy? I think it really depends the path that you want to take. Intimacy educators were a pretty broad group, so some people are actual therapists. I am not a licensed therapist. That’s not what I tell people I do. But a lot of them are. So if you wanted to go that route, there is that route that somehow is more into public education. Some are doing behind the scenes work. Some are working in like public education or even private education. Some are working in the entertainment industry and trying to make things safer for actors and actresses. So it just kind of depends on the direction you want to. But I say maybe really sit and think about like what values you have, what other skills you have, and what direction you’d wanna go.
And then you’d wanna find a program that will help you get the education you need. And there’s a ton of programs out there. I went through the Sexology Institute here in San Antonio and I am now one of their instructors in the program. So I am partial to our program, but it may not be the right program for every person. And so I just tell people to look at the different programs that are out there. Look at their content. Also look at their instructors. I’m always looking for a diverse group of instructors. I don’t wanna see only one viewpoint. So just find what the right fit is for you to get the education. And then realize, just like with photography, you’re running a business. So yes, I do this, but it is a business. And so you’ve gotta have all the business aspect in there as well.
The Power in Sharing Your Story
I was telling you that when I had my stroke, unfortunately, two hospitals missed it. They did not recognize it as a stroke. And that led to several hours of delaying in care. And that led to the permanent vision loss. Because that happened, I became very vocal about talking about my journey with my illness and I was sharing on social media, talking about my experience.
The following year, I ended up in the hospital and my oxygen levels were unsafe. I ended up having to leave that hospital with oxygen 24/7, but my doctors did not understand why. And I was sharing this on social media and because of it, an old high school friend who had become a heart surgeon, saw my post and he wrote me and he said, I think you have this really rare lung disease. And with his help, I got diagnosed. At the time I was diagnosed, I was given less than two years to live without medical intervention. Luckily I was able to have surgery in 2018 on my lungs, and that is the surgery that literally saved my life. And I continue to share my story because I want people to know that we know our body better than anyone. I think back to when I had the stroke. I knew something was wrong. I just didn’t know what, and I kept begging the doctors, like something’s really wrong. I don’t know what, but something’s really wrong with my body. And they dismissed it as anxiety.
And I feel like part of that was my gender being a woman. I don’t know. And I don’t think they would’ve said that to a man, “You just have anxiety.” So one of the things I really teach with my clients is that we know. We have to tune in to ourselves. And that means shutting out the noise, even sometimes shutting out the noise of experts.
What I tell people is, “You know, the doctors, they go to school, they study, and they are amazing at what they do, but they have no idea what it’s like to live in this body.” I do. And if that is an intuition that we have, we have to learn to trust ourselves in order for us to truly be empowered and to have agency over ourselves.
Something that I felt from Angela was this: I will not be ignored. And sharing some of her feelings about feeling that way in the past. And now it’s like, “Enough of this. I will speak. I will share my story. I will heal others by being open and honest about this and helping others to also advocate for themselves in all areas of life.” You know, this doesn’t just apply to health and your body. This applies to relationships. This applies to your business, your families. I will not be ignored. None of us came here to be ignored and to blend in. We all have a story. We all have a mission. And the more of us that come out and share, “This is my story. This is my truth,” the more lives are going to be saved. Like literally lives are saved because we speak.
That’s what I tell people: use your voice. You know, we have our voice; trust your intuition and use your voice because we are worthy. We have value and I’m not gonna be ignored. I don’t want anyone else to be ignored. And I hope that my story inspires others to step into their own in that way and to own what they feel and to not be ignored. And we’re worthy because we’re here.
What I’ve been hearing intuitively is that it’s time to simplify. It’s time to let go. It’s time to cut back. It’s time to really tune in and release things from our schedule that no longer bring us joy or bring us some kind of financial return or that serve in a higher way. And I had to start making some decisions. I had to start looking at my schedule and freeing myself. As I feel a desire to travel more and to be that speaker on stages in person, now that things are open again, you know, I feel that desire to go and travel and explore and be in front of big audiences.
And one of the things that I came to was my podcast and it has been fun, and full disclosure when I said yes to doing it, I was also in the middle of writing my book Free to Fly: Manifest the Life of Your Dreams. I was hosting a retreat. I was planning an international retreat, doing one-on-one coaching, and taking on a lot, and I can now see where I have taken on too much and done things that I thought I was supposed to do to be successful and also to maintain that identity that I created for myself, amongst my peers and colleagues and my clients. And it was about moving quickly, doing a lot of things, having lots of accomplishments, and money clients, and then something funny happened, not funny at the time, but looking back, I know why the business actually slowed the more projects I had going, the more fires I had gone, the less money came in and I started to think, what will others think? I just released a book about manifestation. What will others think? If I am not swimming in the cash right now, I need to keep this quiet. I need to keep this on the downplay until it got to the point of, Wow. I need to look at this. I need to shift some things up and not just what I was doing, but how I was living my life. I realized that I’d been so busy chasing the next project or the next client, the money that I wasn’t giving myself any time to have fun, to be off to rest. And then I started thinking, what will they think? What will they think if I stop doing my podcast or if I stop hosting retreats, or if I stop doing these things that others have loved to do with me and have thanked me and you’ve helped me create all these changes and transformations in my life. But why am I here? Where am I meant to go next? How do I wanna live? What do I want my schedule to look like? I started asking myself these questions when I was in California and realized that it was time to redefine success.
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I started asking, what are you afraid of Julie? What are you afraid of? What else are you afraid of? What else are you afraid of? What else? What else? What else? I found myself in that animal instinct, like really in it. This is what we’re afraid of. This is what we’re afraid of this. What else, Julie, what else? I kept going and going deeper and deeper and deeper. Just like I do for my clients. I did that for myself. I gave myself that gift. I sat with myself in that pain. I felt the full range of emotions. I let it run through my body, Breathed it out, just like I’m doing right now. Took those breaths. I gave the sound to the breath. Until I came to that place of stillness, that place of peace. What am I meant to know here? Spirit that’s when I was able to ask, not from the place of desperation, tell me what to do, why isn’t this working, but then, from the place of, what am I ready to know now? Spirit. I started pulling Oracle cards for myself and the cards I pulled were don’t give up. You’re so close. Don’t you dare give up. I think one of the cards said actually two of the cards had the exact same message. Don’t you dare give up, like, what does that mean, spirit? What does that mean? Does that mean I need to keep doing all of these things? Does that mean I have to keep all of these balls in the air? Does that mean I have to do this and not have any time for myself? No. That’s not what that means. That means your devotion is being recognized. It means to remember why you’re here. You are that door opener. I had a visual of myself standing at the gates of heaven. Sounds ridiculous. But it’s true. I had a vision and I was standing there and what I heard was Julie, you’re not the show. You’re the door to the show, open the door, and let others see divinity. That’s your job. You simply open the door for who’s ready to see that’s your job here.
Success On Your Own Terms
Success on your own terms is about letting go of needing anyone to do anything in response to what you just delivered. We’re used to success, looking like money, people signing up people coming right in business. That is what success looks like. People say. Did it work? What they want. What they’re asking is, did you make money from it? I decided to have a more empowering definition of success, and I actually downloaded this checklist, the middle of the night about how to reclaim our power around success. And it was all about, it has nothing to do with the other person. It’s about how devoted are you? Did you show up in full presence? Did you show up after having rested, fully taking good care of your body? Did you show up in full service with a desire to help improve someone’s life for the better? Was it fun? Did you enjoy doing it? Did it feel effortless? Did it feel like the time just went and you didn’t even notice the time because you were just in your flow? Yes. It’s a success. I came up with the affirmation. I am already and have always been successful. I am already and have always been successful. No more looking for validation outside of ourselves for success. I claim success.
Scale Your Business Without Having to Sacrifice Time With Your Family
I am a hundred percent all in with everything I do. And so I became obsessed with trying to start finding systems, trying them, I learned not all systems are created equal, and not all work. The more complicated a system looks probably the more it’s not effective, they really should be simpler. And so I kept testing and trying, and I was able to cut my hours. I mean, I cut them dramatically. I went from whatever that schedule was. It’s not like I tracked it cause I didn’t wanna know, but you know, some insane amount of 90 to 120 hours a week down to part-time I was working like three, three and a half days a week during normal hours, I was getting eight hours off. I was sort of talking about it, but I was so embarrassed. I didn’t really, and then it was in that, that rooftop and these women started crying and they started admitting like that they were drowning. And I finally got it. I finally realized this is not a me problem. This is a we problem. This is women’s problem.
When you’re trying to balance being a homemaker and a wife, and maybe it’s not a wife, maybe it’s a sister or it’s a daughter or another job that you’re running or we’re trying to manage and balance so many things and we’re secretly overwhelmed, exhausted, and beating ourselves up. And there’s a better way. And so I really just started becoming like, that became my mission. Ultimately it comes down to me, I want to help women have happy and be financially independent and feel financially confident because of their own doing like that’s I want us to have both.
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Julie Goetzinger is the creator of Abundance Academy, Abundance Activation Workshops, Abundance Breakthrough Retreats, Free to Fly, and Money Intensive. She helps soul-aligned entrepreneurs to create more freedom in their lives in the form of time freedom, financial freedom and the freedom to be fully expressed. She is an Abundant Life Coach, Podcaster, Author, Motivational Speaker and Entrepreneur with seven years of experience in the business.
We can get confused about what should be set and what success should look like, right? Like, is it just money or is it more than that? But when I think about thriving, every area in my life feels good. It doesn’t mean they’re all perfect. And it doesn’t mean they’re all equal, but each area feels good. That’s when I’m truly thriving. And I really do believe that this life is for thriving for every single one of us. We were put here and placed here to experience joy and happiness and fulfillment and purpose and passion and all of these.
The Time-Saving Systems
I want you to think about there is the law of the harvest. So a farmer understands that there are seasons for different things, right? He knows, or she knows that there is going to be the period of time when it is planting and they’re gonna be all in during that time. But then there’s gonna be the time where they’re just waiting for the growth and they might need to do a little watering or fertilizing or whatever the heck farmers do, but it’s not gonna. It’s not gonna be that, that constant need. And then there’s gonna be the time of harvest. And they know during the time of harvest, like truly from sun up to sun down, they’re gonna be working, but it has brackets around it. Like there is a calendar that says it’s only for the short period of time.
One of the big shifts for me was this whole hustle mantra. Like this idea of like just hustle, hustle, hustle, no one ever said to us, But for a certain period of time, not definitely. I jumped on the hustle train and I was like, hustle till you die. I mean, that is not sustainable. So I kinda have this like bad, bad taste in my mouth towards the idea of hustle me too, because I think so many people get it wrong. It’s like, I am willing to hustle for a very short and defined period of time. Like, oh, it’s maybe it’s launch time for someone. Great. So for two weeks you’re gonna hustle and I hope you’re gonna like, get a lot of it. Pre-done for yourself just to make life easier, but like, yeah. Okay. You might be hustling for two weeks, but then you’re gonna schedule. Like a whole week of almost nothing afterwards mm-hmm or you’re gonna just rest, you’re gonna regenerate, you know, I think about a cell phone and people will always be, be saying. Like you need to charge up, but think about your cell phone every single night. You’ve gotta plug it back in. And when you’ve got too many things, trying to go in it, when you’re draining it too fast, it’s, it’s not gonna work the way you want it to. And we’re the same way we’ve gotta be plugging back in. So one of the big things is gonna be just a reframing of the mindset around what working hard looks. And recognizing that we really are gonna probably get our most creative ideas and get what we need for the next stage of our growth and our success in the downtime.
Number one, we are making no decisions while you are feeling super emotional. This is a lot of time for a decision. Number two, the very next thing we’re gonna do is we’re gonna look at this giant list and we’re gonna figure out which things we can pin. Hey, those are all pinned. It might only be for a week. It might only be for two weeks. Like, doesn’t mean they don’t have to get done, but they maybe don’t have to get done right now. So we’re gonna look at what we can pin and we’re gonna get down to like, okay, now here’s the two or three things that are actually press. And then start tackling those things. So there’s always the shift first that has to go in our mindset. It has to go with how we’re looking at, at what we believe. Even though from a statement, a bank statement, or on a resume, it looked incredibly successful, it didn’t feel it. So that mindset shift of just getting really clear on like, not just what do you wanna do, but what do you wanna be?
One of the things about your systems is you’re gonna create a system. And then you might need to change it later, right? Like you’re gonna evolve. Things are gonna change. And that’s okay.
We Deserve Downtime
We deserve downtime. I didn’t believe that my value was in my productivity. And therefore downtime was a waste. And that is just not true. We need to retrain ourselves to be present, to be able to be intentional. We’re in a distracted world where we are constantly having things, buying for our attention and trying to distract us. They are pouring millions of dollars into how can I distract her and keep her here instead of doing other. We know that now. So in knowing all of that, we got into some bad habits, but we can get out of them and we can retrain ourselves to be more intentional, more purpose driven more just when you’re there, you’re there. And that’s ultimately what we want. We want our kids to feel that, we want our spouse or our partner to feel that, we want our family to feel that, we want our clients to feel that.
Clarity on what is a match for you and what is not. And the more you do your inner work, the more you let go of things that are no longer in alignment with you and what that means is it just doesn’t feel right anymore. Maybe you don’t really know what to do or where to go with that person, cuz you just don’t really feel that connection anymore. Or if it’s in business, it’s something that used to yield really great results. Like, you know, Facebook lives used to get lots of people signing up for calls with you right away. And it was fun and exciting. And now it just kind of feels like, Ugh, I don’t feel like doing this tonight. I’m tired. You know, it’s no longer a match to you and that’s okay. And the more you tune in and really ask yourself, is this a “Hell yes!” And if it’s not. It’s a no.
I said yes to something. It was an impulsive Yes. I will say it was impulsive and it was around my book and my book is so exciting and fun to me. And just this morning I told my personal trainer, my book is maybe one of the best things I’ve ever done in my life. And I put it right up there with my children. Like, it’s one of those creations that I am so freaking proud of. I’m so excited about. I just feel magic from, I feel so much yes, around this. That someone approached me and asked me to do an interview with her about my book. So I said, yes, right away. It was just like, yes, yes. I’d love to talk about it. And then I realized, as the interview was approaching that I hadn’t even asked, like, what are we gonna be talking about on this interview? Like, what’s the topic? What’s the audience? Like, where are we going here? And the response I got, it was like, Ooh, this is not an alignment. This is not what I wanna talk about. This just doesn’t resonate with me. Ooh. What do I do now? I’ve already said, yes, I’ve already committed. Is it okay to go back on my word? Will I let this person down? When this person no longer wanna work with me? All of those fears came up. And when I notice my energy shift is when I knew it was a no, but now will I have the courage to use that no. What will this mean? And I’ve realized that it’s no longer, never was my responsibility to manage another’s response to me and my choices and that when we make those excuses and we abandon ourselves and what feels right to us, it is a big deal, and we start negotiating with ourselves and we’re saying, oh, it’s just 20 minutes. Or it’s just this. Or maybe if I just call them back this one time. What happens is we start to feel worse because we’ve abandoned ourselves. And our intuition is saying not a match, not a match. You don’t have to call them back. You don’t have to engage with them further. You don’t have to do this, even though you said yes at the time. You were not using all of your senses. You were not using your deep intuition. And as time goes on and we shift our desires, a shift in change, what once was okay is no longer okay. And is no longer a match.
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Do we give ourselves that permission to now say no? And what I decided was that my time, energy and presence is so deeply valuable that yes, I will use my no, and I will release my attachment to how this person will respond to that. And to know that this is even more of that growth and that expansion that I’ve been wanting as a soul. And to clear the space for what is a yes. For the partners that are a yes for the interviews that are a yes for the next books that are a yes for the next clients that are a yes. And the more committed we say to ourselves and what is a yes to us, the better we feel. And the more we will call in that, which we are wanting. This voice, this inner voice gets louder. The more you do the work to clear way, what no longer is a match, whether that is connections, friends, old clients, things that once we’re matching no longer are.
And I just did an act this morning. I took action on this and I went to my cell phone and deleted. Every contact number one, that I had no idea who the people were. Some of them were from my photography days when I was a professional photographer. You know, people who called inquiring about photo shoots, never booked or people who did. And I had amazing experiences with, I’m not a professional photographer anymore, so why are they in my phone? So that was an easy one. So I went ahead and deleted all of them. And then I went back and I looked at the people that I’ve dated in the past. Some of ’em, you know, there was nostalgia with them like, oh, we had a good time. Or, oh, I wonder what they’re up to, but do I want to reach out to them? No, so they can go. So I deleted them and I said goodbye to each of them thanked each of them for what they contributed to my life. And then I went to friends. Are these friends that I would reach out to, am I in their life still? Or do I want to be in their life again? If it’s a no, it’s a no, some of them, I was a little hesitant to, childhood friends that I’m curious about, but right now we’re not in the same trajectory. So I did not delete them because maybe our paths will converge again. So I left them in my phone. And then I look back down the list and I say, I feel good about this list. I feel good about having the energy of these people around me and what I was thinking was I sleep with my phone next to my bed. The energy of these people was in my phone, no longer wonder I couldn’t sleep well.
One of the biggest things for our studio, that’s really specific to us and that I feel like more of the industry should do and I know it’s complicated to do is we sit in hair and makeup for that hour and a half while my artist does hair and makeup. And we’re chit chatting with the client, kind of like you and I are here now. And I’m kind of reading the client and what she needs to talk about and what needing a friend is for, and becoming that friend that you can just kind of get that all out into. And it’s making me like see and realize that there are so many people who have kind of walked similar paths as us and sometimes we just need somebody who’s been there to just either give us advice because they’ve gotten past it. Like they’ve maybe in a different point than us, or like have somebody to just get it out to that. Maybe is not our significant other who we don’t, I don’t wanna process those feelings necessarily with, or we don’t wanna put that on our best friend. I can be that person that they can kind of express that outwardly too. And I think by seeing that I’m not alone, it’s really helped me heal too. And then it’s helped me be able to continue that process of helping others to heal as well.
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One of the things I wanna start with is, many people I’ve had so many photographers tell me, I could do that if I had your team, but that’s not the case. You can’t put the chicken before the egg or the cart before the horse or whatever, you can’t do it in the wrong order. You have to be able to do everything yourself and then grow it as it grows. So I haven’t always had this team.
The turning point for me was kind of my husband, Rob. I had an ex-husband and I became a single mom with an infant and had to protect her and had to do all of these things. And it kind of put me in this like shutdown mode, like I just wanted to, you know, get a job and pay the bills and like do whatever. And then my now husband Rob came along and he was really the supporting factor for me. So I found a partner who really supported me and I was going to college full-time and working a job. I pulled student loans to get our first studio space. Like he went in, he looked at spaces with me and we probably looked at seven different spaces and there was this one space. It was completely gutted in a historic building in our town. And I couldn’t get it outta my head for two weeks. And I was like, there’s just no way, like the rent for this space is more than the rent for my apartment. I don’t know if we can do it, but I can’t get it outta my head. And I have to pull the student loans to like furnish it and do all of the things. And he was like, do it. He wasn’t part of our team here at the studio at the time. Like, we will figure it out. And so that was kind of like, we didn’t have a choice moment. Like we had to do it because there was so much writing on it. So we did that and my makeup artist was contractor at the time. And Rob would just come in and he’d help with things here and there. As I needed them, we set up the studio space and it’s a picture and I have like in the background, him sweeping in one of the rooms, because we furnished the studio, spent the night at the studio, and then did a shoot the next day at night.
Write Out All of Your Tasks
The best thing I found to do is to write out all of the tasks, like everything, all the little things you do for this studio, whether it be like answer emails or like the post to social media, doing whatever it is, file taxes, writing those all out and then figure out one, which ones do you love to do? And two, which ones make you? Because the things that make you money are the things that you need to be doing. So really my primary task, now that I am able to have a team, they really need to be shooting and selling. And I don’t like to sell, I’m not a sales person. I’m a very technical person. I want them to be guiding the client and finding what’s best for the client and what works for them and not worrying. Things are consistently to a point where we’re needing more help and that’s the best way I feel to grow, because then you’re not hiring at a point where you’re stressing about taking care of that person.
You Have to Understand that the People in Your Life Will Change
The average of the five people you spend the most. And so as you grow, those people have to change either they have to grow with you, or they have to become new people. And so we had to realize that there were these people in our lives. And sometimes as this family too, which is really hard, they’re not gonna understand, like my family doesn’t understand that we had the ability to go on a cruise and pay for a suite on a cruise in LA last year. And so sometimes coming from that, from those families and such, it kinda puts you in a place where you have to understand that you need people who are more on that higher tier, like whatever tier you are on at that time. Our friends have totally changed and the friends that don’t get it and don’t understand. We’ve moved to friends who are like, yeah, like, why are you not doing that yet? But whatever it is.
And sometimes it’s staff too, the staff see all this money coming in and then they see their paycheck and they don’t understand that. Like you have rents and you have contractors and you have outsourcing and you have insurance and you have taxes and you should be taking a CEO paycheck because you are the one. Yes. So you’re giving them what they could be paid. And you’re going to try and increase that pay for them, but they’re not seeing all, they’re just seeing one number and then they’re feeling like it’s not fair. You have to understand that you have to show them why. In order for me to pay you more, this is what you need to do, and then realizing how much more work that is. And then them saying, oh, now I get it right. I have to earn it. They have to be bringing in the money for that.
I wanna define for you how I find abundance, which I’m sure is a compilation of different spiritual teachers, and leaders that I have heard over the years, but my definition is taken from what I’ve learned from others. And what I believe now is that abundance is the deep trust in knowing that what’s yours will not pass you by understanding that your desires are there because it’s for you. Not everyone desires to have a house on the beach, not everyone desires to have that kind of love partner, and not everyone desires, whatever it is that you desire. And you might think like, oh, well, you know, if I get what I desire, why does the person that shows up not act or look like what I saw? And it’s because we have our personality develops, desires, things that it thinks at once to be happy, to feel good, and then the universe is okay, I hear you. And I know that what you really want is the feeling of being in love. You want the feeling of being happy, the feeling of being in passion and pleasure and joy. And we will deliver to you what is best for you based on what your soul is really wanting and desiring, and guess what you don’t even need to have the person arrive to feel that way.
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The first step is to clarify, so clarifying the vision on what it is that you want. How do you wanna feel, where do you wanna live? What do you wanna be doing with your days? Not just where do you wanna go on vacation? How do you wanna feel every day of your life? How do you wanna feel? Clarify it, claim it, state it. This is what I want. Make those requests clear to the universe and they will bring things that match that what you’re asking for.
The second step is community. To surround yourself with others who have a similar vision. Maybe they’re also looking to grow their business. They’re also looking for their love of their life partner. They’re also looking to lose weight, whatever it is that your current vision is for your life surrounding yourself with others who have a similar vision. And who desire, not just for themselves to succeed, but for you to succeed too. They understand that as you succeed, they succeed. This is not a competition who succeeds first, who finds the partner first, who makes the money first. This is about your wins are my wins. I want this for you, just as much as for me, just as much for our community, I want us all to feel good, finding a group like that, to surround yourself as you do this work is going to accelerate the process drastically having a shared vision, and also having that support people that will stand with you in the claims that you make.
The third step is to commune. And when I say commune, this is about communing with yourself, your higher self, your inner self, your inner voice. So many different ways to call the same thing. Connecting with that higher self that is divine. I went back and forth with a step of connecting with the divine. You are divine. Commuting with yourself, deeply knowing yourself is to know the divine, is to know yourself as divine. When we say the divine is your source of compensation. Yes, they are. You are. We are all of it. All of it. It’s not separate from you. You are a living, breathing, spiritual being in a human body, living a human experience. You have the power to create whatever you desire in an instant. There’s no such thing as time in an instant, it can drop in, in an instant. You can feel those feelings right now. Right now you can feel the feelings of being in love, being in love with your life. Being in love with your, your career, being in love with your children, your partner, your friends, your family, your animals being in love with yourself. You have the gift of doing that right now. And the more you meditate, the more you tap in, the more you decide that there’s no relationship, more important than the relationship you have with yourself. When you decide that when you know that and you do the work to commune with your self regularly, everything changes, everything changes. You will have the ability to feel good. Regardless of what’s going on the outside, regardless of those people that are poking you, that are telling you you’re not worthy, not so many words, whatever they’re saying to doubt you, because they doubt themselves. They doubt you because they doubt themselves. You have the ability to stand there, to walk into the flames, to walk into the lion’s den unscathed. As a powerful divine being that you are when you know that, and you show up as that version, everything shifts and changes everything. Every relationship shifts and changes. When you know the powerful divine being that you are, and you decide to commune with her regularly.
The fourth step is to commit. This is committing to that vision that you saw in the beginning, the vision of the money, the vision of the partner, the vision of the place, the vision of feeling good. I’m so at peace, so happy. I’m so content I’m so excited. When you commit to doing the work, it takes to allow in those feelings to allow in those experiences, to allow in the tangible manifestations, the money, the relationships, the partner, all of it, you commit to doing what it takes. I’m thinking of the imagined dragon song, whatever it takes, whatever it takes. I will face the naysayers. I will face the hecklers. I will face my family. I will face my inner demons. I will do whatever it takes. I will commit because I know that I am here to experience this. I know that I’m here for a life of abundance. I know that I’m here to experience absolute ecstasy, joy, pleasure, passion.
Committing to doing those action steps. And then we repeat the process again, we start over at the beginning. You start again. What’s the new vision. What’s the new vision dropping in, clarify it, claim it, state it, continuing to surround yourself with those who also see and want you to be happy. They want you to have what you desire surrounding yourself with those loving people and having the courage to let go of those who can’t, who won’t not everyone loves and supports you. Not everyone wants what’s best for you. Some people we plant on our path to take us off our path. We plant them there. We basically hire them to play a role, to bring a challenge, to be difficult. We wanna blame it on them as a person, as someone separate. It is a mirror of us. It is a mirror of our own inner Demonn saying, Nope, not for you. You can’t do that. You can’t have that.
We Have The Power to Create EVERYTHING!
When we realize our power to create everything, every experience, every connection, all of it, that it’s all simply a hologram, a mirror of the thoughts we’re thinking. And we realize that it’s all of our own creation. Hmm. I did that. I put you there? I did that. I created that. Huh? Why did I create that? What does my soul want me to learn from this experience? Maybe I just want the feeling of overcoming. I want the pleasure and the satisfaction of knowing that I’m unstoppable. So how better to prove that I’m unstoppable than to put shit in my path that looks like I can’t get through it. Watch me. It’s like proving it to yourself. You’re not proving it to anyone. You’re proving it to yourself. And you’re playing a game with yourself. It’s all a game. Anyway, it’s all a game. Everything is just the story you give it. Everything is your own perspective. All of it is changeable. All of it is ever fluid ever changing. You create all of it. when you realize. You have the power to create, you have the power to move things outta your way.You have the power to bring in anything you desire. It’s almost comical. You’re like, oh, I did that. I can do that. You mean everything is just our own creation.
